Break the Barrier of “One More”

One MoreIf you were raised in America, you have experienced the concept of “one more.”  As a child eating vegetables, you’ve heard it from your mother.  “Come on, one more bite.”  If you have ever played a sport, your coaches voice still echos in your head, “one more lap!” If you’ve ever lifted weights, your spotter motivated you by screaming, “get it up one more time!”  To be absolutely sure you understood, your math teacher would say, “ok, let’s do one more problem.”  If you took music lessons, your instructor most likely said, “play it through one more time.” You get the point.  The concept of “one more” has been burned into our brains from the moment we learned how to eat from a spoon.

It’s still a part of everyday life today.  We use it as a warning to those that are pushing our limits.  “If you do that one more time, I’m going to….”(fill in the blank).  At the end of the day on Thursday, excitement starts to build.  After all, there’s only “one more” day left in the work week.  “I’ll have one more cookie, one more drink or one more cigarette.”  “One more look at that beautiful woman won’t hurt.”  “I’ll hit the snooze button, one more time.” “Let me just say one more thing.”  When leaving the ski hill, “let’s take one more run and then we’ll call it a day.”  At the office, “I have one more call to make and then I’ll head home.”

When did we decide that “one more” is the right number?  Are we incapable of deciding how much we want to learn, how long we want to stay, how much we want to consume?  In the context of vices and doing work that you hate; one more seems like way too much.  In the realm of training, acts of love, work that you enjoy, and other good things; one more seems like an arbitrary limitation.

I can think of 2 scenarios where “one more” seems to make sense.

1. When temped to give up, something within knows that we can handle one more. When we see an end in sight, we can muster up the strength to give it one more shot.

2. When at the mercy of others and you’re in a rush.  One more, is a good way to offer grace while setting boundaries.  “Alright, one more and then we have to leave.”

The concept of “one more” has become ingrained in our everyday lives and for the most part, it’s not good.   It’s a cop out, an escape from thinking critically.  If we choose “one more,” we’re off the hook.  In the case of destructive behavior, “one more” isn’t that bad.  At least a boundary is being drawn.  In the case of positive activities, “one more” is seen as respectable.  We’ve acknowledged that it’s difficult to do more of the right thing and “one more,” is all we can handle right now.

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Here’s the problem.  “one more” is average.  Most people can handle it.  They have been conditioned to for most of their lives.  What may seem honorable in the moment, is actually the status quo.  What if you removed the “one more” crutch from your life?  How would it change?  How can you think differently?  How can you become remarkable?

Consider this quote from author James Allen:

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We have been conditioned to think that we are only capable of “one more.”  If you haven’t been intentional about challenging this notion, you probably are currently living with the results of “one more” type thinking.

My mastermind group has challenged me to adopt a new form of thinking and it’s starting to change everything for me.   Take a minute to watch this video from business coach Dan Sullivan. 

It’s time to think bigger.  I’m not suggesting that you abandon balance and push everyone else out of the way to get what you want.  It’s a matter of boldly investing your God-given talents.  Use the gifts you were given to benefit the lives of as many people you can.  I challenge you to expand your mind.  So much more is possible!

How will you apply 10x thinking in your life?  Please share your ideas in the comments.

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18 thoughts on “Break the Barrier of “One More”

    • Thanks Jeff, it’s been awesome to watch your business grow as a result of your big thinking. You inspire me!

  1. What a refreshing take on how to “be” and “do” more or for that matter what we’re really capable of.

    I love Monday morning messages that challenge me for the week and this one certainly has!

  2. Michael,
    This is a great article, I love the idea of challenging ourselves past one more. My favorite line of this whole article is “Are we incapable of deciding how much we want to learn, how long we want to stay, how much we want to consume”. Learning to make the decision in advance is such an important part of balance in life. Thanks for the Monday Morning, rest of October, Challenge.

    • You are so right Jill. The ability to design our own lives is so important. So many people think their lives are just random series of circumstances. Thanks for your comments!

  3. I love the way you de-constructed the concept of 10x into “one more” and changed the conversation over the video. Very interesting perspective that is making me look at it in a new way. Thanks Michael!

    • Thanks James. The deconstruction happened completely by accident! I had the “one more” concept in mind and realized after writing half the post that 10x is the perfect replacement for small/arbitrary “one more” thinking.

      P.S. Thanks for the eagle-eye “site” correction.

  4. This is really inspirational! I never stopped to think about how often we do say “one more” in our culture. We definitely need to consider this cultural norm. One more is average, and who wants to be average anyway?

    • Thank you Sandra! The crazy thing is, no one is average. Yet extraordinary people continue to choose ordinary lives. Deep deep down, we all know there is so much more!