I’ll spare you the fluffy intro. I coach leaders. I’ve noticed some common themes. Today’s theme is this: Every leader I have worked with has seen tremendous positive results across the board when being intentional about improving their marriage.
Sounds good, right? Put family first. I’ve heard leaders say this without hesitation, “If my wife needed me, I would drop everything and come running.” While that sounds honorable, it just isn’t enough. I’ve intentionally spent a great deal of time with successful people over the past few years. I base my measure of success on much more than monetary riches. I look for things like joy, quality of life, sense of purpose, meaningful relationships and yes, financial success too.
This is what I noticed:
- Their wives and husbands are treated like royalty. (Opening doors, lending a hand on stairs, etc.)
- They consistently brag about their spouses and honor them with their actions and speech.
- Investing in counseling, attending marriage conferences and reading marriage books are a regular part of their marriage.
- Although their children are a close second, it is clear that their spouses are put first.
- Romantic dates, special gifts, hand holding and being present are not reserved for special occasions.
Really? Being a hopeless romantic makes you successful? Think about it. Your marriage is a launch pad for everything you do. It’s the place you return to at the end of the day. It’s the person you celebrate with when you win. It’s the place you find support in times of struggle. It’s the person you will enjoy your success with. If you don’t regularly invest in your marriage, you are putting a cap on your success.
I’ve heard it explained that marriage is a glass ball and the other areas of our lives are rubber balls. As we juggle, marriage is the one ball you don’t want to drop. While our careers, health, finances, etc. all have the potential to bounce back, our marriages are affected forever. A great marriage enhances everything we do and a toxic marriage can sabotage it.
Is your marriage life giving or is it sucking the life out of you? Either way, decide to start investing in your marriage today, your quality of life and the success you will experience depend on it.
I have a lot to learn about marriage but I the one thing I will never stop doing is working hard to intentionally make it better.
If you’re interested in being intentional about improving your marriage alongside a group of intentional leaders, put September 2nd on your calendar. The Life Leadership Mastermind begins. For more info, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.