Afraid to Take the Next Step? (Podcast)

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I recently had the honor of being interview on the SHIFTing Work Podacst.  Dwain and Van talk to blue collar folks who have the desire to start building the life they’ve always wanted.  They know what it feels like to punch the clock every day and grind out hard work, while their dreams are put on hold.

Click on the picture to the left, grab a cup of Joe and enjoy the hilarious and inspirational show that will help you start taking action on your dream.

P.S. At the end of the show, I offer a ridiculously discounted coaching deal that you don’t want to miss out on.  Offer ends on November 1st!

510 – What Can Be Learned From Peyton?

photo (48)Peyton Manning has now thrown more touchdown passes than any other player in NFL history.  He is a 5-time NFL MVP and has made 13 appearances in the Pro Bowl.  Manning is arguably one of the greatest players in NFL history.

It’s easy to think of Peyton as a naturally gifted athlete and chalk up his success to freakish genes that he was lucky enough to inherit.  But really, what has made him so great?

He is not known for his mobility, speed or athleticism.  His arm strength has also been in question.  Peyton has 3 key elements that have made him succesful.

1. Purpose

As a sophomore at Isidore Newman School in Mississippi, Peyton started  at quarter back.  He threw passes to his older brother Cooper who was an All State receiver on the team.  Cooper was on his way to Ole Miss and many had him slated as a future NFL star.  He was forced to give up football because of a spinal condition.  Peyton started wearing the number 18 in his brother’s honor.  When Cooper found out his football career was over, he wrote these words to Peyton: Via Sports Illustrated:

I would like to live my dream of playing football through you. Although I cannot play anymore, I know I can still get the same feeling out of watching my little brother do what he does best. I know now that we are good for each other, because I need you to be serious and look at things from a different perspective. I am good for you, as well, to take things light. I love you, Peyt, and only great things lay ahead for you. Thanks for everything on and off the field.

Peyton has always been playing for something bigger than himself.  If you want to make history, you must find a purpose beyond yourself.

2. The Norm

Peyton Manning’s father Archie, spent 13 years as an NFL football quarterback. The average American citizen sees playing in the NFL as a near impossibility.  For Peyton, not only was it possible, he watched his own father do it.  It was a part of their lives.

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Think of what your father or mother does for a living.  Do you think it’s possible to achieve what they did?  Of course you do.  You’ve seen it with your own eyes.  If what you’re striving for is not your family norm, realize that you have to create a new norm.  Recognize that your thinking may be limited based on the family you were raised in or the people you spend your time with.

Illustration by Gary Lyons

Illustration by Gary Lyons

3. The Victory Comes After The Defeat

Breaking the record for throwing the most NFL touchdown passes is considered one of the greatest milestones in professional sports.  Peyton did not achieve this in the middle of a thriving career. Do you remember the Peyton Manning of 2011?  After neck surgery, He was forced to sit out the entire 2011 season.  He spent the season watching from the sidelines in warm up pants.  The Colts released him and it appeared that his career was over.

What seemed like the end of a very good career, was just the beginning for Peyton.  He continued pushing forward and a few years later led the Denver Broncos to the Super Bowl.  At 38 years old, he has become one of the greatest football legends of all time. If he would have thrown in the towel after his injury, who would’ve blamed him?  He would still be known as one of the NFL greats.

At some point in our lives, we all face devastating obstacles.  The people that make history, keep moving forward.  Normal people do the responsible thing and quit.

Break the Barrier of “One More”

One MoreIf you were raised in America, you have experienced the concept of “one more.”  As a child eating vegetables, you’ve heard it from your mother.  “Come on, one more bite.”  If you have ever played a sport, your coaches voice still echos in your head, “one more lap!” If you’ve ever lifted weights, your spotter motivated you by screaming, “get it up one more time!”  To be absolutely sure you understood, your math teacher would say, “ok, let’s do one more problem.”  If you took music lessons, your instructor most likely said, “play it through one more time.” You get the point.  The concept of “one more” has been burned into our brains from the moment we learned how to eat from a spoon.

It’s still a part of everyday life today.  We use it as a warning to those that are pushing our limits.  “If you do that one more time, I’m going to….”(fill in the blank).  At the end of the day on Thursday, excitement starts to build.  After all, there’s only “one more” day left in the work week.  “I’ll have one more cookie, one more drink or one more cigarette.”  “One more look at that beautiful woman won’t hurt.”  “I’ll hit the snooze button, one more time.” “Let me just say one more thing.”  When leaving the ski hill, “let’s take one more run and then we’ll call it a day.”  At the office, “I have one more call to make and then I’ll head home.”

When did we decide that “one more” is the right number?  Are we incapable of deciding how much we want to learn, how long we want to stay, how much we want to consume?  In the context of vices and doing work that you hate; one more seems like way too much.  In the realm of training, acts of love, work that you enjoy, and other good things; one more seems like an arbitrary limitation.

I can think of 2 scenarios where “one more” seems to make sense.

1. When temped to give up, something within knows that we can handle one more. When we see an end in sight, we can muster up the strength to give it one more shot.

2. When at the mercy of others and you’re in a rush.  One more, is a good way to offer grace while setting boundaries.  “Alright, one more and then we have to leave.”

The concept of “one more” has become ingrained in our everyday lives and for the most part, it’s not good.   It’s a cop out, an escape from thinking critically.  If we choose “one more,” we’re off the hook.  In the case of destructive behavior, “one more” isn’t that bad.  At least a boundary is being drawn.  In the case of positive activities, “one more” is seen as respectable.  We’ve acknowledged that it’s difficult to do more of the right thing and “one more,” is all we can handle right now.

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Here’s the problem.  “one more” is average.  Most people can handle it.  They have been conditioned to for most of their lives.  What may seem honorable in the moment, is actually the status quo.  What if you removed the “one more” crutch from your life?  How would it change?  How can you think differently?  How can you become remarkable?

Consider this quote from author James Allen:

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We have been conditioned to think that we are only capable of “one more.”  If you haven’t been intentional about challenging this notion, you probably are currently living with the results of “one more” type thinking.

My mastermind group has challenged me to adopt a new form of thinking and it’s starting to change everything for me.   Take a minute to watch this video from business coach Dan Sullivan. 

It’s time to think bigger.  I’m not suggesting that you abandon balance and push everyone else out of the way to get what you want.  It’s a matter of boldly investing your God-given talents.  Use the gifts you were given to benefit the lives of as many people you can.  I challenge you to expand your mind.  So much more is possible!

How will you apply 10x thinking in your life?  Please share your ideas in the comments.

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